Couples counseling - Considering it? Top 3 signs you need it

And its ok! Everyone (almost everyone anyways) needs couples therapy at some point in their relationship.

1. You're barely speaking. Many relationship challenges are simply challenges in communication. A therapist can help facilitate new ways to communicate with each other. Once communication has deteriorated, often it's hard to get it going back in the right direction.

2. You bicker constantly. Negative communication includes anything that leaves one partner feeling judged, shamed, disregarded, insecure or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. Negative communication also includes, the tone of conversation because it’s not always what you say, but how you say it. Negative communication can also escalate into emotional abuse, as well as non-verbal communication.

3. Attention is withheld as punishment. My client Ann's ex-husband would get angry over small things and then withhold affection (including giving her the silent treatment). If one partner starts to act as a "parent" or "punisher," starving the other of actual love as a weapon, there is a lack of balance in the relationship.

In the Grass Valley, Ca area?

Sierra Family Therapy

(530)913-5054