Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy - Sierra Family Therapy

I often get asked what my approach is to couples work. I always respond that I pull from many theories depending on the needs of my couple. One theory that I often use is EFT. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an approach to couples therapy that looks at the attachment bond between couples and instead of seeing the conflict as a problem, we look at conflict in terms of unmet need. For example, partner one complains that the other never has time for them and is always rushing about and partner b says that partner a does not really care about them and has no appreciation. Possible unmet needs in this scenario might be that partner a feels uncared for, unlovable and not good enough. Partner b may be feeling unseen, unappreciated and unloved. When I work with my couples I am looking for these unmet needs. I work to build a solid foundation of communication and then uncover these needs. Together, we heal these and work to see the challenge as a team. The challenge is healing one another's (each partner working to heal the others) unmet need.

Here is a resource for a great book, Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson (founder of EFT) http://drsuejohnson.com/books/

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I wish you healing and health! Happy New Year 2018!